Archive for July 2008
Avoid disappointment “Expect Less”
Although the title may seem a little strange the concept shall become perfectly clear, I promise.
Have you ever had a friend or family member ask you to do something for them, or asked you to go somewhere with them? Of course you have, we all have. And do you feel obligated to go there with them or do that thing for them? What if you don’t really want to?
All of the these questions come to us almost daily from the various people with whom we associate. We all like to, on occasion, help our friends and family out by driving them to the mall, or picking up that thing at the store while we are there. We even go so far as to do things that we don’t enjoy, all in the name of friendship.
Family and friends are very powerful people in an individuals life. Surrounded by the kind, loving and supportive types, we will excel and prosper. Surrounded by the negative and nonsupporting types we will be destined to fail in life.
So what happens when we are asked to do something by a friend or family member that we just do not want to do. For most of us there are two options. For starters we can lie and say we have another engagement to attend. Then you get caught in that lie three weeks later when you are drunk and inadvertently spill the proverbial beans. Or you can go and do that thing, then bitch about how much it sucked to the rest of your friends, and that would eventually make it’s was back to the person who’s sucky event you went on.
One way or another you loose.
Even worse, are the friends and family who expect you to do it. Using lines on you like “Well you’re my best friend, why wouldn’t you want to?” Or “But I’m your Mother!”
That shit just kills me. Expecting people to do things just because they are friends or family is ludicrous and down right selfish. Then you both get all uncomfortable and we are back to the same two questions, Lie? or Do?
Here’s how we eliminate the “Lie” or “Do”.
If you don’t want to do something, Say NO!
It’s time we all started to do the things that make us happy. If your friends or family cannot accept that, then to friggin’ bad for them. Who’s life is it anyway? If they are truly your friend they will understand that you do not want to accompany them, or help them out in this situation. Coming to terms with that should be good therapy for them. If they can’t wrap their pathetic little heads around a big fat “NO” then find a new friend, this one is too needy.
For those who are guilty of “expecting” your friends and family to step up all the time, grow up. They have lives to live and may not want to be with you on this little adventure of yours. The less you expect people to do things with you, the less you will be disappointed when they say NO.
Practice with me
NO…NO…NO
See so easy to say!
